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Five Tips to Help You Keep Your Cool During Family Holiday Gatherings

The holiday season can be a joyful AND challenging time.

(Ram Das shares, that if you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.)

Below are five tools to help you keep your heart open while keeping your cool during family gatherings:

1. Cultivate your Centered Pose – a space of unwavering calm and ease

Centered Pose is a HoopYogini™ posture where you stand inside your hoop, hands holding the hoop at 3 and 9 o’clock and your feet rooted on the Earth, planted in the center of your hoop – your personal universe.

Find this space inside yourself – with our without a hoop.

The center represents the still point within – a never changing place/space of calm and ease.

From your Centered Pose, you learn how to observe and experience Life – it’s changes and challenges.

Ideally, you learn (practice) how to respond rather than react to life’s fluctuations.


Close your eyes, breathe and find your center. Do this over and over in times of joy and times of chaos and you’ll be better equipt to connect authentically during the holiday season.


2. Utilize impermanence in your favor

Know that all things will pass including this moment, your feelings and agitations.

And, given the passing nature of all things, you have the opportunity to cherish each moment.

Notice what’s beautiful.
Notice what’s working.
Find one thing to appreciate and then find some more.
Acknowledge what you’re learning and even though you may experience discomfort and pain, give thanks for the opportunity to upgrade your mindset, actions and relationship to all your relations.


3. Practice Compassion

Know that everyone is doing their best with the resources that they have.

Know that YOU are doing your best.

We are all doing our best to navigate an internal and external world that has been programmed toward chaos.

Some people have actively discovered inner peace.

Some are practicing to find their way.

Others don’t know that it exists.

It’s okay. Life is a journey.

When in doubt, return to tip #1 and as you breathe, activate and widen a feeling of compassion – the container that holds all things.


4. Create time to be alone

In the midst of holiday energy, it can be easy to get caught up in the commercialism of the season and in the intensity of someone else’s plans.

Be sure to spend time each morning and evening to deepen your relationship with you.

Also, go out in nature and connect with plant and animal beings.

See the flow of life within and around you.

Notice that you’re never really alone but it’s also important to know yourself.


5. Don’t take anything personally

This reflects back to tip #3 – we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment.


All behavior extends outwards from the self.

Yes, the world reflects and nudges us on ways we can grow, but remember that we’re all having our own experience.

Sometimes it’s not about you, it’s about them.

Most of all forgive, let go, relax, celebrate and enjoy life!

If you found these tips helpful, please share the blog.

What are some tips that help you stay heart centered during the holiday season?

Share them below. Let’s support each other!



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